Their Hurt is Not Your Decision to Make by Nikita Gill

Deciding how hurt someone is allowed to be with your behaviour towards them is the emotional equivalent of

drowning someone and deciding how loud they are allowed to scream
setting someone on fire and deciding how much of a mess their ashes are allowed to make
stabbing someone and deciding how much they are allowed to bleed.

You do not get to destroy someone and decide how ruined they are allowed to feel.